What is Love

Love is an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment. Love is also said to be a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection —"the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern 

for the good of another".

Love may describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one's self or animals.

Love refers to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from pleasure ("I loved that meal") to interpersonal attraction ("I love my partner"). "Love" may refer specifically to the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love, to the sexual love of eros, to the emotional closeness of familial love, to the platonic love that defines friendship, or to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love, or to a concept of love that encompasses all of those feelings. 

This diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, compared to other emotional states.

Caring attitude for others is also part of love,and when you buy or gift someone dear to you,earn respect and love for you in their heart. 

Love in its various forms acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative arts.

Love may be understood as part of the survival instinct, a function to keep human beings together against menaces and to facilitate the continuation of the species.

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Are Relationships Materialistic

While reading to one of the email,  i got from one of my follower saying that, Are Relationships Materialistic?
And i still find it hard to answer, please do tell me  what should i say?

Here is my point of view to this question:

To some extent it is true, because people around us, makes us believe that the relationships are materialistic. But we cannot held responsible them completely for that, they could have done this because they were stuck in some situation or circumstances made them to do so.

There is one great example of your mom you can take,when your were little kid, and used to whisper on the bed, your mom always put your on the dry side of the bed, and herself slept on the wet side of the bed. And when she heard you crying for something, she leaves behind all her important work to make you feel happy.

What makes us feel like Relationships are Materialistic, when we look for materialistic things around us, which can be bought with money, or a person can buy that for us. So these things are Materialistic (maya) not the relationships.

All this illusion is created by mind.You might think i am a CrazyEgg. What mind has to do with all this? let me tell you that, soul has nothing to do with this world, because that is the part of that almighty and has to merge with that. So mind demand for the things, which are really are Materialistic, and when we does not get these things, we start blaming others. I must say expectations are the main cause of dissatisfaction, and it leads to hatred, which makes us believe that Relationships are Materialistic.

How To Make Valentine Day Special For Your Sweetheart

Each year, lots of men I know cringe with the approach of Valentine's Day. They wonder just what it is that will make the day special for their partners and how they can best communicate love. And we all know that the wrong thing given to a sweetheart can be worse than giving nothing at all.

Listen To Her/Him 

There is nothing that communicates love than a willingness to listen to your partner. I read a book once and came to know the fact, that women in general have a built-in need to communicate about three times as much as men in general. There are certainly exceptions to this rule, but I believe the general trend is true. Giving your partner quality listening time, and then really listening to her with a goal of understanding, is a much appreciated gift.

Figure Out Her "Love Language"

love language means, you need to share the quality time with your partner, and make her feel the warmth of your love with physical touch. You can also express words of affirmation.You should not forget receiving and giving gifts to each other. And the most important thing, you should do is to perform the act of service to each other. All these things can make you sure that your partner cares for you and really loves you. Because most of our wives and girlfriends appreciate a chance to be pampered a little. 

 Find her favorite fragrance.

If you know your partner's favorite perfume and it's one you like as well, this can be great gift. A memorable Valentine's Day gift can be one that recalls favorite memories from your partner's past or from your history as lovers. Consider: 

Post the Pics.

Most framing or photography stores will have picture collage frames where you can put favorite photos into mats. Dig through the pictures at home and build a photo collage of favorite memories.  

MARRIAGES ARE MADE IN HEAVEN AND HELD ON EARTH

In today's time most of the boys and girls are thinking that why one should get married? And they do question most of the time,are marriages really made in heaven.So let me explain few things why these
question do come in their mind. Here are my thoughts, and you might want to buy it or not that's all up to you.

Soul Connection:
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In some of the spiritual books you could read that we are bound by our karma's, and that is the main reason we are here on this earth. And Spiritual preachers do claim giving the example that, why did you not born in a family of some  billionaire. Because your karma's are associated with this life. On the other hand, many people or spiritual preacher do completely deny this thing, because they do not believe in re-incarnation. So this soul connection is a kind of theory of relativity. If you believe in re-incarnation then you can buy this,otherwise you would also deny. And if you go by the theory or belief of re-incarnation there are many of the examples, which could make you believe in all of this. You can take a example of a man who has 5 girlfriends, but he decided to get married to the only one why? Because it might be possible during their last incarnation they were also husband and wife.

Karmic connection : 
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There is a very good example of karmic connection like, who do parents earn for?  And the answer is for their children. And you must aware of the fact parents are working day and night just for the good future and well being of their children, so we do spent most of the part of our earning on the education and on other things. And for us nothing is more important other than their happiness. But at the end of the day they do leave us when get's matured, or do get settled with their families.This example could teach us to a great extent that we humans are bound to each other with our karma's. Let me put light on this example,suppose those ,who are children in this lifetime were parents in the past life, and they made their parent's spent that much of amount on them, so they had get rid of that loan. And the same thing applies to relationships or marriages.

Destiny:
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Till the we are not merged with almighty, and has become one we will have to be born again and again. And Jesus Christ has said "Those who are born of spirit will be born as spirit and those who are born of flesh will be born as flesh". And it clearly gives us the message until or unless we have paid-off our karma's in this human from of life we would not be able to attain salvation. We will have to be born again and again in the form of flesh means, one body made of flesh to another body made of flesh. And the lucky are humans who have awakened their soul and are in love with that almighty. Because their karma's will be taken care of him. And till the time, you are not merged with that almighty, you will have to be born again and again. And your destiny would be decided prior to birth. I would say your partner, parents,friends and everything is predetermined as per your karma's.

Thanks//Rajeev

How to know if you’re in love ( falling for someone )

They say that when you meet the one you just know. Yet they also told us that a certain jolly man who wears a red suit was real and they sure got that wrong. So, we’re almost certain that if they can be mistaken about that, then they can be wrong about instantly knowing if you’re in love with the one. Here we show you seven signs that you are head over heels in love, so that you can know for sure if it’s love or if it’s just lust.

Crazy in love
Well, Beyoncé sure got it right when she released Crazy In Love. It turns out that when we fall for someone our brain actually behaves similarly to how it would if we had a mental illness. This deranged state is thought to be caused by one of the most important chemicals in love; serotonin.
Although serotonin affects us all in different ways, a study undertaken in 1990 by an Italian researcher found that those people who had recently fallen for someone showed symptoms of Obsessive Compulsive Order. Maybe Romeo and Juliet would have behaved differently if they’d have known that their feelings were just a chemical reaction?
You become a vampire
For those of us who are not crazy in love with a new guy or girl, when the alarm goes off we get up after enjoying at least six hours sleep and grab some breakfast. We will then go on to tuck into another two meals during the day before heading back to bed at night. Yet if you’re in a new relationship you may not be doing these everyday things. Instead you seem to be becoming more and more like a vampire. You have lost your appetite and you don’t seem to sleep much anymore. If you don’t sleep or eat then it’s a clear sign you've fallen for someone. We’re sure all of the twilight fans are excited about this news.

Nothing gets you down

So you lost out on a promotion at work and you just found out your two best friends are leaving to go travelling for a year on the other side of the world without you; how do you feel? If you’re surprisingly upbeat then it’s a sure sign you’re in love. Researchers have found that when we fall in love the prefrontal cortex in our brains, which is associated with negative emotions, becomes deactivated. At the same time other areas associated with pleasure and joy become active. This means that things that would normally get you down don’t seem to affect you too much.They seem perfect
Do you think that your new guy or girl is absolutely perfect? Do you think they’re absolutely perfect even though they eat with their mouth open, have an abnormal amount of body hair and have an unhealthy obsession with country music? If you still love them despite quirks that would typically drive you wild, then it’s a sign you've fallen in love. Studies suggest that the area of our brain that handles our social judgement deactivates when we fall in love. This effect of love is thought to last for up to two and half years, which is quite incredible. Amazingly it is thought that by disabling this area of our brain we are able to build stable relationships, which in turn aids our abilities to raise kids.
You feel like a teenager
We all remember feeling clammy handed when we talked to a boy or girl who we liked when we were teenagers. Yet we’re grownups now, so surely we’re too old to be feeling like that? Well, don’t be so sure. If those teenage nerves and feelings seem to be flooding back with vengeance whenever you see or speak to your new partner then it’s a sign you’re madly in love. When we fall for someone our nor epinephrine levels shoot up and this chemical is what makes our hearts race and our hands sweat. You forgot your birthday
Who could forget their own birthday? The answer: someone in love. If you can’t think of anyone or anything else other than your new guy or girl then we’re happy to tell you you’re in love. Be warned though, thinking of nothing else other than your new love has some hazards. For example, be careful not to doodle your new partner’s name on your notepad whilst in a very important meeting or accidentally call your boss your new partner’s name. Who knew love could land you in so much trouble?


You’re blind
Everyone knows the phrase love is blind, but there is in fact some truth in these words. Experts have found that people who have recently fallen in love tend to not feel attracted to other people. So, the hot colleague you've always flirted with when you've met one another in the stationary cupboard may suddenly hold no interest for you anymore. It is thought that our inability to see anyone else as attractive other than our new love interest stems from our increased levels of dopa mine which has been associated with our ability to focus.

A B C D OF LOVE

A guide to dating terminology


Confused by dating lingo? Not sure how to define your relationship? Then check out our A-D of love and dating for the words you need to know.



A is for Attraction


What is it: Attraction is the force that draws us to another person. This can be instant, based on appearance and sexual desire, or a longer process developing from a deeper bond. Although nobody knows for sure what attracts us to certain people, scientists have developed various theories about how we pick mates. For instance, it is believed that symmetrical features, waist-to-hip ratio and smell can all make a difference to how attracted (and attractive) we are to others.

B is for Bonding


What is it: A bonding is a close, affectionate relationship and deep bond between two opposite sexes. Often as close as a romantic relationship, People involved in this relationship can start take on couple-like qualities, sharing affectionate nicknames, enjoying weekends away and even going on dates.
C is for Chemistry


What is it: Chemistry is one of the most integral components of dating, yet although it is spoken of often it is hard to define what exactly it is or why we feel it. When people talk of feeling “chemistry” with someone it generally involves feeling a connection with someone, enjoying their company and feeling attracted to them. While some people think chemistry needs to be instant in a relationship, others believe it can develop over time.

D is for Dating


What is it: Dating is when two people spend time together in a bid to get to know each other in a romantic context. While the definition of dating is often confusing, it is generally thought that at this stage of a relationship exclusivity is not essential. For some, a date is just a fun, one-off activity; however, dating is often a way of testing compatibility and exploring the possibility of a relationship.

What I Promise To Stop Saying In Front Of My Kids

Words Mean Something, So Stop Saying You Want To Kill Someone

As a writer, I should know better and as a parent, it is critical: Words are meaningful and when we use violent language to describe our feelings, we contribute to a culture that is numb to the effects of killing.

Since Dec. 14, when a madman entered an elementary school , I've become hyper-aware of the permeation of violence all around me and my kids. Last week, my kid was innocently playing an app on her iPod that involves fairies and magic potions while we drove from one place to another, and she asked me if she could "buy a gun to kill some people" in her game.

I replied maybe a little more vehemently than I intended to and opened up a discussion with her about guns and killing and violence that I probably could have handled with a little more parenting aplomb. I'm here to tell you that talking to your kids about guns and violence is a lot harder than telling them where babies come from.

In other words, if she wants to talk about sex, I'm ready. If she wants to know why she can't pretend to kill a bad fairy with an animated musket, I'm all thumbs.

However, we stumbled through a short conversation about why guns were invented, how responsible people use them and how some guns are meant for just one thing and that's to kill people. Afterward, I spent about an hour berating myself and then I spent another hour researching and thinking about how better to explain to her that I want to create an atmosphere in our home of love and kindness for all, and that means not engaging in violent play.

For me, I realized after some soul-searching, it also means being aware of what I do and say in order to set that example.


I can't keep saying that I want to kill people, or shoot myself or ask anyone else to kill me.

No, I don't really want to kill people. I don't want to kill myself, nor do I want anyone else to kill me. But I say those things all the time, without a thought. If I'm staring down the barrel of a long day, I've been known to quip, "Someone, please kill me."


If I'm in the car and I don't like someone's driving, I have been known to shout, "Ugh, I could kill someone today!"


And so on, and so forth.



My kids have watched shows that include maybe a little too much violence, cartoon or otherwise. I let it slide because hey, we watched Wile E. Coyote die a thousand deaths and we're OK, right?


No, we aren't OK. And no, Wile E. Coyote isn't to blame. But we do exist in a society that is absolutely saturated with violent games, language, movies, TV shows, books... the list goes on and on.


Yes, violence exists in the real world. Yes, violence has a place in literature and film. Yes, we have to cope with violence because it is in our nature to commit these acts against one another.


However, I will do my best to no longer contribute to the culture of death that circles around my kids. I don't want to kill anyone, ever. I know from personal experience what death looks like up close and personal, and death leaves grief and destruction in its wake for the living for the rest of their lives.



Just as language can lift us up and inspire us, language can debase us, make us less than, words can dehumanize us and we can dehumanize one another when we threaten violence in our everyday slang. As someone who spends her days on the Internet, I say with authority that people are careless with words like "war," "kill," "throat-punch," and so much more.


I'm not going to say I want to kill you anymore. I hope you don't want to kill me for saying that.